It is always very difficult to move on. Whether be it a place, a person, a job or a belief. Human brain is very comfortable with the homogeneity of life. Every day the same routine, same food, same office, same people. Any change in that routine creates a frustration and then chaos depending on the intensity of the event. We listen everybody say often – ‘I am bored from the routine.’ But it is just for a while. One might want a break, but then gets bored of that break, and look forward to the same routine. We fear Change. And we resist it in a big way. We pay a huge cost because we don’t want to change. Years pass by and we realize and feel and then wonder that we are at the same place as we were before years.
I have been at that place, we all have been at one time or another. We read a lot, watch a lot of motivational stuff, listen to great podcasts, but still we fail. Why? Because we don’t Do. We don’t Act. We are in the pattern of thinking about doing, but actually don’t do it. And then find reasons and excuses as to why we don’t do it. We keep telling ourselves the stories that it is alright, everything is fine the way it is. But deep down we aren’t satisfied. We like people, who try new things, who take risks, who just lead the life as they want to. Thanks to Facebook and Instagram, we get a peep into life of such people. They motivate us for a moment, but again we are too lazy to do anything of that sort. “After all they are lucky people that their destiny is such, that they can live their lives on their terms. We are not from that lot. We have to do what we are told to. We are so forced by situations and circumstances of our lives, that we don’t have power to make choices for our own life. We are just puppets to the circumstances, that we can’t quit what we don’t like.”
I know we all recognize that it is a bullshit story that we keep on repeating in our minds. We all like new adventures, and taking risks bring thrill to us, but what is stopping us – is the lack of courage and too much thinking. Belief that thinking too much will help us being safe and everything will be alright. But trust me, it feels it is alright, but after few years it won’t be. Moving to a better place or a better opportunity, getting out of a bad relationship or unsatisfying job. It is a virtue in itself. There is no doubt, that it will attract struggle. Every new situation has struggle tied to it. Even when a child comes out of mother womb, it is suffocated first, though it is a freedom to come out. In the same way, if we can develop the courage to manage the initial struggle, we can feel the freedom soon.
Freedom is nothing, but the feeling that you are in control of your life. And you are, if you let yourself be in the control and stop telling yourself otherwise. No world is going to stop by you doing what you actually want to do. Try for yourself and see.
Act. Discard. Move. Shift Gears.